my mind has been blown.
i always assumed that i'd have transgender friends because i'm transgender and part of the community. but it never crossed my mind that a pre-existing friend of mine would come out as trans.
well, it happened. mind—completely blown.
i get it now. at least a little bit.
you think, "woah! like, what? but cool. i mean, good for you! yeah! but huh. wow. didn't expect that. not that it's bad. which it's not. it's good! i just can't wrap my head around it completely. but i'm definitely happy for you. yeah, awesome! thanks for trusting me enough to tell me."
i had the added feelings of "yay! you've come over to the dark side!" and "just think of all the things we can talk about now!"
it's weird for you guys, right? someone you know transitions, and now you have to completely redefine that person in your mind—call them a different name, change pronouns. maybe you ask yourself, "well now that she's a he, i shouldn't get the door for he— err, him. yeah?" or "should i offer to walk her home? i mean, it might not be safe for her to walk alone now."
transition is really not just a one person affair. when one of us transitions, everyone else has to transition in some way too. but i think it's a good journey to share.
and i'm especially happy to have another person to share it with now. :)
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It's true Sami, "transition" is a journey for all of us. I'm glad you have a friend who will understand these experiences as you do, and with whom you can share.
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