i have some rather big news. i'm changing my name! and i'm 100% out!
for those of you who are new here or were directed here by the facebook post 'outting' myself, i'm transgender! born a boy, want to be/feel like a/wish i were a girl. no big deal. i'm changing my name to samantha (sam and sami are agreeable nicknames). i'll respond to 'ben' by force of habit, but i'd prefer sami or sam (or samantha, as occasion dictates).
for those of who find this news alienating and/or disturbing, maybe we shouldn't be friends? i mean, this is who i am, and your bad vibes aren't going to change that or make me want to pretend to be a normal guy who likes testosterone charged conversation.
but don't let me be too harsh! i know that accepting something like this can take time, so i won't hate you regardless if you're cool with this or not.
so, i decided to shave my legs today (since a part of this whole thing is allowing myself to be as much of a girl as i want to be). wow—that's tedious! it took me an hour to do a shoddy job on one leg:
i'm guessing regrowth is easier to shave (being shorter and sticking up more) and takes less time. luckily, it's winter so no one will know that i have one hairy leg and one smooth one!
feel free to leave a comment (i take questions—any and all!)
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Samantha! Maybe this seems cheesy of me to say, but I am so incredibly proud of you for having the courage to come out and announce this to the world! Not many people have the fortitude in this day and age to come clean- and announce it to all of facebook! That's actually pretty awesome. AND I think you're pretty awesome. <3
Incidentally, shaving gets easier. Nair makes legs super smoothing. Waxing hurts. BUT it lasts longer. Enjoy!
Shaving legs sucks. There's no way around it. But they do feel oh so nice when smooth! I make a point of rediscovering that at least once a month. Okay, so sometimes I go a little longer . . .
I love you, Sami! Is Bunny still an acceptable nickname? It would be awfully hard to give up.
Oh, and here is another question. Perhaps the answer is obvious, but I just want to be sure. Is "she" now your pronoun of choice?
I feel your pain, since not too long ago I shaved my legs for the first time in 13 years. It does get easier. I love you Sami.
Sami is a rebel. A lot of them born on January 26th:)
It's a good thing that you're not blossoming with chest hair.
I support you my friend and love you all the same! <3
Oh man. Please have patience with me. For some reason I'm really bad with name changes. When my niece Maggie announced she wanted to be called Audra, I called her "Hey you" for about 6 months until she said the family could call her Maggie. Even a change from Mandy to Amanda is hard for me. Maybe I'm just super sentimental about names? I don't know. I have issues.
I love you no matter what - even if you want to change your name to Princess Consuela Banana Hammock.
Also, I'm trying to remember the last time I shaved my legs. *blush* I missed your announcement on New Year's Eve. I was partying hard. (Watching the ball drop on TV at my parents' house.)
@Kat - thanks for the tip! i naired the other leg, which turned out to be a lot less tedious with rather nice results, but i could see how this could get expensive
@Lisa - bunny is still acceptable ^-^, and i'd lean toward 'she' but i'm not going to correct anyone using 'he' nor insist upon 'she'
@Bekah - i love you too! i guess i have you beat though: 25 years and 11 months of no leg-shaving
@dem dem - a rebel and proud! happy early birthday ;)
@Neversummer - thank god i'm fairly hairless. and you, sir, are an awesome dude who i will always be proud to call my friend.
@Sarah - ooo, maybe i should go with princess consuela banana hammock! it has a nice ring to it. and for you it'd be just as much of an adjustment, right? i haven't gone to the courthouse yet—there's still time...
Curt and I are both happy for you! I know we've met only a few times, but congrats! Also, I read your next post about eyebrows -- try going to a salon for waxing if you're nervous about plucking. I'll give you my stylist's contact info if you want (or ask any of your girlfriends -- they probably all know someone).
Haha!!! I don't know if you ever watched "Friends", but when Phoebe decides to take her husband's name, she goes into the office to change it and the lady says, "You can change it to anything you want to." So she changed it to "Princess Consuela Banana Hammock". Her husband says, "That's fine. I'm changing my name to Crap Bag." They meet a friend of hers later and he says, "Aren't you going to introduce me?" One of my favorite episodes. Later it's pointed out that a banana hammock is a Speedo.
I'm thinking Princess Consuela Banana Hammock might not look good on a resume. You're better off with Sami. :-D
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